Hey reddit
So, I (27M) have a group of friends where we go to every event together, but roughly 3 months ago, (22F) became single and a month later, when we were at a party, we kissed and both agreed to just have this be a occasional thing. The same night, she proceded to make out with a diffreent guy. I didnt like it, but understood the is single after 6 years and she is just letting it all out.
The next day we talk it over, she is sorry for faking out with the guy and were back on track.
She invites me to a event for the next week, where we procede to have fun, talk normaly, drink, a little light flirting... the works, but at the end of the day, she goes home with a different guy, who happens to be a artist she really respected.
I was devastated, as if I get close with somebody, the last thing I expect is them to be fooling with somebody else, when they invite me to a thing.
I invited her for a talk, just so I can get my thoughts out/cleared and she mentioned she didnt want a relationship at this moment, despite we already having the talk.
I decide to leave the same day, as I didnt sleep that night, hungover and just emotionally confused.
In addition to this, my grandfather was sick, so I was mentaly perocupied and emotionally allover the place.
We didnt talk for a month and then my grandfather died and when contacting the friend group, she immideatly wanted to hang out, where we proceded to talk normaly.
Fast forward to yesterday, I meetup with a different friend from the group (28F). The group as set to meet at 8PM at a bar, but this girl contacted me, we talked and decided to go for a early drink. Talked about exes, our things, what we like in people...everything, except about the girl (22F) from the group.
I mentioned how both the girls are my ideal body preferences, she is giggling and I know fairly well she will tell the other girl, as they are great friends. Hell, I even invite 28F to go with me to the coast for the weekend, because I enjoy her company and assume he does the same and nothing else. And I am actively trying to avoid talking about 22F, as it is doing me no good and because I probably still have some feelings about her.
So, later that day we meet with the group and 22f comes a bit late and oh boy...she was stunning. Nothing special, but ditched her glasses, contacts in, parfume, which was very nice, different hair style, a bit more makeup than usual, like red lips and blush (she usually had only eyeliner) and I was just enjoying the view.
I did approach her, we talked, complemented her on her hair (boy did it make me nervous) and at that time, I was on my second beer, on an empty stomach, so I was buzzing.
We talked about some things, nothing important and she asks me, are you happy and I say, Im fantastic. Not a stress in the world, relaxed after a long long time (grandad was sick for 2 years almost and I was stressed most of the time and finaly became relaxed after his passing).
At this time, I was a bit tipsy, but cool and honestly had a great time, but noticed she was not like her usually happy self when talking to me, or maybe that was just me overthingking it.
Now, at the meetup, we started talking about a birthday party that is happening next week, that 2 friends of the group are organising and there will be copious amounts of alcohol. Same location as the first time me and 22F made out and where I live very close so...
So, at this point, I dont know what to do or how to go about this
Should I pursue 22F or see how 28F (birthday girl) will be at the party.
Like, I dont know if Im just nervous, have butterflies or something else, but I most definetly dont want to messup the friendship we have, unless it will go further.
I will defiently be having fun, drinking and socialising, but the thin line of understanding that it is flirting and being good friends is the hardest part for me.
Thanks in advance and stay sexy =)
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