So I had a discussion with some girls recently where one had gone on a date with a boy she was not interested in. I asked why she didn’t simply state that when he approached her and asked for her number, to which she replied, “It’s hard to say no to a guy who is putting himself out there.” And I’ve been thinking about it.
I feel like giving out your number would be a little nerve racking. Especially with all the posts I see about unsolicited dick pics or a guy blowing up on a girl because she wasn’t comfortable going out with them or rejected them. I guess I wouldn’t want a girl (or even a guy, if the roles were flipped) to be nervous about who she just gave her number to.
So I was thinking about asking out this cute girl who works at a restaurant I occasionally go to to get dinner sometime, but I was thinking if instead of asking for her number (assuming she says she‘d like to), if I gave her my number and said to text me what days work for her?
I feel like that takes a lot of pressure off because then she doesn’t have to message me if she’s worried or not interested. I feel like if I were in her shoes, that would make me more comfortable.
The problem is that I asked a friend of mine if she thought that was a better approach and she said no. She mentioned that it was as if I didn’t actually want to plan it or take initiative. But I feel as though me asking in the first place does that already??? It’s just removing a step where I’d text ‘Hey, this is (me) from the restaurant. I was wondering what days you were free?!’ But I could be completely wrong...
Anyway, my question is whether or not this might be a better approach? Would me giving you my number and asking you to text me what days you’re available instead of asking for your number make you more comfortable? Or should I just ask for her number?
[link] [comments]
from Dating Advice https://ift.tt/2Nfkenr
via IFTTT
No comments:
Post a Comment