So we met through friends, got on well, and we've been meeting up every so often when we can. We both work really busy jobs and I work night/day shifts as I'm a nurse and he's also working split weird shifts. We've both recently got out of very serious relationships (his much more serious than mine, but mine was also difficult to get over) in around March, and so neither of us really want anything super serious and we're both talking to other people.
In person, everything is GREAT. We get on so well, and pretty much all of our mutual friends who see us together say how good of a match we are and how happier we seem around each other. Not to be sad or anything, but I do really get the feeling that we click and that we connect in a way I've not really connected with guys before (he said the same the second time we met up, but he was very drunk). He never really goes on his phone when we're together other than to maybe reply to a friend once or research something we're talking about. We pretty much just hangout, enjoy the company and then eventually I go home.
However, I'm from the generation where everyone is SUPER ONLINE ALL THE TIME and I'm used to a certain level of communication. The guy also works in healthcare and a lot of his work is very heavy and stressful, so I don't expect messages during the day. To be honest, as we're casual I didn't really expect messages every day at all. We talk more when he's not at work (my schedule is WAY more flexible than his and I have a lot more down time) and he starts the conversation.
Recently though, I've noticed him leaving my messages on read a little bit more than he used to (his schedule is getting a lot more hectic) and sometimes he does take hours to reply. He does always reply, and we still meet up and have the best time together really. But I'm just really worried. My last relationship was completely awful and my ex gaslit me a lot into thinking I was needy and clingy for things that really, really weren't. I just feel really nervous that this guy isn't interested or just thinks I'm needy and clingy? This guy messages me first and does continue the conversation and he remembers SO much about my life. Things I told him weeks ago that I wouldn't have remembered. We were both very drunk a few weeks ago and we both said we're the best sex we've had in a while and that we like each other a lot haha.
I guess I'm just looking for input on the communication thing - IRL it's great and honestly the best. Online? Not so much.
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