First reddit post here, but just thought this would be a nice spot for some advice!
For the sake of this story lets call the girl in this story P
I just graduated from a great University and started a new career as well as studying for some professional certifications on top of all of that. So needless to say, I am relatively spread thin. Living at home still to save money for a house. (relevant later)
I met P two months ago and since then we have been on a number of dates that all went smoothly; however, I paid for everything even though we both work (I do like to be a gentleman most of the time, but sometimes it is nice for the girl to offer...maybe that's just me?)
She is a beautiful girl who has a lot of depth to her personality and asks interesting questions. On our first date we met up for "drinks", which is rather normal for someone in their early 20's; however, she does not drink whatsoever, never has, never will so she said. So I just sat there and nurtured my beer that I had ordered before knowing. (I don't have anything against people who don't drink, but it is just different from University aged people in my circles to not ever drink...and I love my beer so different for me).
Over the course of our get together's she even spent 4 hours on public transit (result of delays) instead of going home just to meet me on a date. I started to think that perhaps P was more into me than I thought.
She even began mentioning and hinting at her inviting me over to meet her parents. Please keep in mind we have not had any intimacy here (besides kissing) and have only gone on a handful of dates. I was slightly alarmed but went along with it by nodding etc.
This is where it gets interesting:
Never have I heard her swear or say anything bad about anyone, as it has been sunshine and rainbows to "date" this girl.
I come down with a cold after a burnout week at work and spend my entire Friday night and Saturday studying for an upcoming examination that is incredibly important to my line of work. She was sending me a lot of messages about how wonderful of a guy I am and how lucky she is. It was nice to hear, but I decided to postpone our date on the Sunday and give her 24 hour notice (give or take) so I can have some time to rest and prepare for the upcoming week. I did so very apologetically and kindly over text message.
She doesn't respond until the next day, when she calls me while I am at a family lunch. I step out of the family lunch to take the call and she says that I am selfish, do not respect her time and should be ashamed of myself for wasting the last 2+ months with her. I was confused as to why she would attack me like this, so I asked for an explanation. She said that it was in regards to "backing out" and "flaking" on our planned date on the Sunday that she was so excited for. Long story short, she dumped me and blocked me on all forms of social media. Quite a change from the day before with the kind messages.
I have been in relationships before where we have worked through problems and tried to support each other, but this one wasn't one of those (obviously)
Is there something I should look at working on here in terms of self improvement or is she just a bit of an inflexible nut job?
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