I have the chronic texting issue that I've heard a million times before, but I'm honestly curious. How much do you read into texting during the early stages of dating?
The guy I've started to see is 34. He has no social media, deleted Facebook a few years ago and has never had any others. He also works in an extremely competitive field, where being busy can mean super busy for a couple weeks at a time, then lulls of time. He's got an older phone he never checks it when we're together, no notifications go off, he even lost it in his apartment once while we were hanging out.
We've been on 5 dates in six weeks. Obviously the coronavirus makes it hard to meet up, we haven't been seeing anyone else in person, and both live alone. He calls them dates, asks me out and makes plans, asks me out again on the date, and texts me the day after to and see if I want to get together again. He did have to reschedule once, but he set the rescheduled plans in stone ASAP. Our dates last like 10 hours long (sometimes more) and we've been taking things slow. We have great conversation, constant laughter. We could honestly ramble on for hours. He's told me he's liked me. I've told him I like him and am enjoying the time we spend together. Yada yada.
When we text each other, its huge long paragraphs talking about things happening in our lives, more like emails than texts. In the beginning, we'd each send one of these huge paragraphs about twice a day each. After the 4th date it dwindled to one text from him every 2-4 days. He's mentioned a few times he's super busy with work and talks about exactly what's going on.
Again, the texts are more like emails sent over text, so a part of me thinks this is normal. I've also fallen into the trap of texting a partner all day constantly back and forth and it can honestly make anybody codependent. Yet they always say "If they like you, they'll text you every day."
Should I assume he's not as into me? Or just go with the flow? Note that I'm still dating other people. I'd like to invest fully in him, I really like him, but I worry I shouldn't if it feels like he's putting me on the backburner of just an option when he's free. Sort of want to bring it up to him in a "Do you hate texting" way, but it also feels really early for that. I just get this vibe that he's cooling off, which makes me want to back off from fear of getting hurt.
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