Hi! Before I start, I would like to say that I know no one knows his intentions unless him and unless I ask. Quarantine has left me a lot of time with my thoughts (which is both healthy and unhealthy) and it's driving me crazy. I want to know what you guys think:
We've been friends for over 2 years. We met my freshman year of college (I'm a junior now) and it was obvious he was interested in me from the start. Long story short, we talked for a little bit, eventually kissed (my first kiss actually), he got hickies from another girl, I finally asked what his intentions were and he said he didn't want a relationship at the time (this was 2 years ago). We left off on good terms and remained friends. Sophomore year came along and he made the effort to hang out with me here and there but we never did anything physical.
Summer going into this school year was when things really started to change. We began to Snap a lot and he tagged me in things on Facebook. Immediately, when school started, he asked me to grab food which never has happened during over 2 years of friendship. Throughout the school year he made a lot of effort to hang out with me and spend time with me for example: he asked me to hang out a lot and would always hold my hand, we went to get coffee numerous times (he always paid!), he cooked for me and even specifically bought me a steak after I asked for one, he bought wine so I could drink with him in the dorm, and asked to Facetime and go to the city during our winter break. The past 2 years, when we were at parties together, he would always be hooking up with another girls but this year, every party we were at together, he stayed by my side and tried to get with me. At one party, I remember I was dancing and got close with another guy and I knew he got jealous but just didn't say anything. Also, I remember I jokingly asked for a bottle for my birthday a couple of weeks before my actual birthday. He remembered my birthday and gave me a bottle at my party, but he said it was from him and his roommates (I'm close to all of them), but I'm not sure if he just said that so it wasn't as obvious. All of these events happened from August-March.
Anyways, because of COVID19, we all had to leave school. He asked to hang out with me because he said, "this might be the last time I see your face." We hang out, get coffee (he pays) and we finally get back to my dorm. He eventually asks if I wanted him to kiss me and I say no. He asks why and I said it's because I'm not good at this kind of stuff (I wasn't lying). He says its fine and I say only the cheek and then he kisses me on the cheek and kind of just makes out with my neck. We then cuddle for 2 hours. Later that same night, I go to the bar with my friends and I get a text from him saying he'll be coming with his friends too. I dance with my guy friends and then later, I see him hooking with another girl. I know this is immature, but I got kind of mad and then found another guy and I just sit on his lap and I'm pretty sure he saw.
I'm confused, was he just trying to hookup with me or wanted something more?
Also, I'm not sure if I should reach out to him because I don't know if he still has feelings for me. We haven't talked in a month and we have always kept in contact since freshman year. Sidenote too: I'm aware of how immature we both acted and we both need to grow up and work on our communication skills.
tl;dr: This guy gave mixed signals throughout the year. Did he just want to hookup or something more?
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