Hi guys, this is a throwaway account for privacy purposes.
Being my first AMWF relationship and being in a previously abusive relationship, also with an Asian upbringing, I do not have experience in the dos and don'ts in a relationship.
I married my first love/relationship due to strict Asian parents when young. That turned out to a nightmare and ended in divorce.
Now with my AMWF relationship, it is quite literally my second relationship in 40 years. Due to the trauma and abuse I suffered, my insecurities finally drove her away (I am actively seeking therapy). She broke up with me 2 months ago and I was devastated. I admit, I did a lot of wrong things like pleading, pestering, begging and not giving her the breakup. She first said there are no chance of her coming back. But after a week of no contact, we slowly talked and she came back. She cried when she saw me again because she missed me so much. Our relationship is good and I adore her. We made big plans like marriage and kids, met our parents. We both decided that we wanted to spend our lives together so both of us were deeply emotionally invested.
Now as we are slowly fixing the relationship, she found out that I called her dad 2 months ago when we first broke up. At that time I was frantic, devastated and confused. Now with my Asian upbringing, I saw my siblings reach out to their in-laws when issues arises in relationships. I am cool with her dad and already see him as my father in law, thus I reached out ONCE. That's all. When she found out, she said I over stepped her boundary and shouldn't have HARASSED her dad (just one 30 min phone call during day time). She has now blocked me everywhere and I have no chance of explaining myself. She might be afraid that I might harass her and try to send her walls of texts on every platform.
I am at a loss. Please help. At my age and baggage, moving on seems impossible as I love her so much. I know she loves me too but I'm not sure unknowingly overstepping her boundary is the end. She did come back from to try to fix the relationship but my worst fear is that this it it.
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