Update from my first post from about a month ago. This is going to be long, but I feel like I need to share this with you people. Thanks in advance for reading and for the previous advice given!
So a little over a month ago this girl caught my eyes on the subway, and I had some eye contact and smiles back and forth. At the end station I decided to make a move after some hesitation. Got the girls number, set a date, and it went above and beyond. Spent a whole day together and just had loads of fun, and then spent the night together also. That was roughly a month ago, here comes the next month.
After the initial date we agreed to meet up again 4 days later to go driving around the country side so I could see where she grew up since I’ve never been in those areas before. The day after we made the agreement she texts me that she’s going to a pub with a friend and I’m welcome to join if I want. So I join, but in the meantime I call my own friend for backup so he can meet up too. I arrive at the pub, so does my friend. We greet them both and everything just clicks so well. We as a group end up having a great evening until the pub closes. I and the girl kiss a little and I follow her home and I go back to my own place. Just a casual and enjoyable evening mixing with each others friends.
The day of the road trip comes and we drive around talking a lot about all kinds of stuff. Family stuff, stuff that matters to us both, etc etc. After a couple of hours we decide to get back to the city to get wasted. We ended up going to a pub and played pool for several hours, drinking beer and having deep conversations again. Talking about each other’s future and how she wasn’t going to stay around for now because she needed to explore the world for some years to come before settling down. So we agreed upon to just have fun for the rest of the month and then have a friendship for life. So after the evening we went back to my place and spent the night again.
After that we had several occasions where we met each other’s friends and family and just had lots of fun, enjoying each others company, spending the night together at each others and some other weird place and doing all sorts of crazy things - things I wouldn’t have dared to or thought of doing before.
So a couple of days ago she left on her own adventure. I’m a bit perplexed right now, because I sort of caught some sort of feelings, and so did she because we have talked about it. But we don’t want to hold each other back from our future plans. Instead we’re going to keep in touch as friends and live our lives - but who knows what the future brings? Maybe it’s destined to happen at some point in life, maybe not. I know for a fact that I’m going to continue on my own path for now and just live my life. It might take a little while for me to let this whole situation sink in, but I don’t regret asking her in the sub one bit, or this past month one bit. It has actually been the best month of my life since it’s opened my perspective on a lot of things, especially my perspective on what I want from a potential future partner, and what I don’t see as important as before.
So to anyone thinking about taking chances, just freaking do it. It might hurt afterwards for a while, but the value it offers for the rest of your life is invaluable- and so are the memories! The post could have been a lot longer, but I can’t really wrap my head around writing any more details. Anyway I hope this encourages you people just a little bit to be able to take that first step out of the comfort zone! Cheers people and have a fantastic summer! 😎
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