I’ve learned throughout my relationships that paying for dates (especially as a girl myself) can be really weird. Nobody actually wants to pay, but someone has to every time. Nowadays it’s really common for the girl to pay on dates, however, there’s still a lot of confusion around this sort of thing. Since this is a mostly gender role issue, assume we’re talking about a straight couple
On the first date:
If you’re the guy, come prepared to pay and expect to pay. You don’t know what her values are, and chances are she’s not expecting to pay. If you’re a girl, come prepared to pay, but it’s likely that he will pay. However, if he doesn’t have enough money/ assumes you’ll be paying, you should have money. Basically, be prepared to pay. A good idea may be to work this out ahead of time, especially if the girl is the one asking the guy out.
The first few dates after:
Ladies, as a girl, I’m telling you at least offer to split and if they agree, don’t be upset. Especially depending on the type of date, guys don’t want to be dumping loads of money every weekend for someone they’re still getting to know. Guys, if she doesn’t start offering to pay at least for herself by the 3rd or 4th date, ask yourself why. If you’re the one asking her out and you’re taking her expensive places, don’t expect her to pay, but if you’re going on average dates and she seems to be more than willing to keep going out with you, she should start paying soon. If she doesn’t, start planning a way to ease up on going out.
Later in the relationship:
Now it becomes more about income and who plans the date and less about gender roles. If you ask the other person to go out, plan on paying. If the two of you mutually agree to go out on a certain date (Valentine’s, birthdays, etc) then plan a place you can afford. If you are making more money than your partner, expect to pay more often. However, aside from income and asking the other out, the girl should be picking up some full bills by now unless you have some agreement with your partner.
Hope that helps people getting into new relationships!!
TL;DR : typically the guy pays, but as time goes on the girl should start picking up bills as well
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