So I (F26) have never been in a serious relationship or had sex before (not religious but waiting for someone I trusted and felt close to). I have been on OLD for years with little to no success, partly due to me struggling with anxiety and insecurity. I'm ultimately looking for a serious relationship but I am not looking to rush things and I would be open to something casual as I'm kinda tired of being a virgin. I met this guy (27) a few months ago and we started talking and hanging out. I really liked him from the start and he seemed to really like me too. I found myself being able to be vulnerable with him and he never made me feel bad or insecure. I asked him very briefly a few weeks ago what he was looking for and he said something more serious which matched with me so I asked him to get tested for STI's before we go further with things. We've been on a few dates since and I really started to like him and saw us moving to being more serious. As it's getting closer to him getting his results and us having sex I wanted to ask him if he was open to being exclusive. When I asked though he kinda said he wasn't sure and then said that he wouldn't be open to being exclusive. He said he's not talking to anyone else but that he's still getting over a relationship (long term) that ended. I appreciated him being honest and understood his reasons but I can't help but feel like it's him more not wanting to commit to me which makes me feel like shit. I really like him and would still like to have a relationship even if it is casual but I'm not sure how to come back from my feelings. I'd obviously need to put some boundaries in place. And before you all comment I realize that I'm probably going to be the one ending up hurt in this scenario. I told him that I'd be open to hanging out still until he starts to see someone else as seeing someone who's also hooking up with someone else makes me nervous about STI's. I'm just kinda looking to vent or hear any constructive advice from people who may have a similar experience.
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