Me and a guy have been talking for about 3 months now. We talk everyday, have gone on plenty of dates, and he seems to be exactly what I want in a guy.
Now, we are long distance. About 4 hours but we never really let that get in the way because we’ve both put in equal effort to visit each other. He’s also asked me to go on a trip with his friend and his fiancé next month.
The other day I went on the dating app we met on because a part of me still has trust issues after being in an emotionally abusive relationship for 6 years. I wanted to see when he was last active and it showed him being active when we were Skyping the night before.
I called him out on it and he told me that his sister wanted to see a picture of me and since he doesn’t have any other place to go for them, he went on the dating app. He did say his sister was calling him during our Skype date and he told me she wanted him to send him a pic earlier in the day but he forgot.
Anyway, we got into this argument because he told me that he doesn’t like it when I go on to check the dating apps because he doesn’t want me worrying about what he does.
I told him upfront plenty of times that if he wants to keep his options open, then that’s okay with me but just be honest and tell me. He’s always assuring me that there’s nobody else. He also told me that if I wanted, he’d delete the app off his phone because he doesn’t really need to go on it. I just replied with a simple “ok” because I was pissed.
Because I’m paranoid and my anxiety gets to me, I made another account and went on the dating app to see if he deleted it and it showed that he was online just a few hours ago. It made my heart sink.
I gave him an out plenty of times. It’s pointless for both of us, especially him if he’s not interested to keep this thing going if he’s not interested. I don’t give him any extra attention and I put in the same amount of effort that he does in this relationship
Edit: Yes I know I have trust issues and I know it’s unhealthy for any relationship, but this kind of shit is exactly why people have trust issues
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