Someone ghosted me this week. After 2-3 months of dating, emotional intimacy, going through a couple of difficult situations together, sleeping together multiple times. He gave me ceramics he made himself. I was developing feelings for him. It fucking hurts.
He was recently out of a 10 yr relationship (he was cheated on) so I can understand why he ended up confused, but we did have many conversations about how I was looking for a relationship and he always assured me he was too. Until one day I called, and he ignored it (was on instagram 10 secs later) and then the next day I messaged, no response for days. SPOOKY GHOST.
All the advice is to ignore it and move on but honestly I think that's just giving them validation for their behaviour.
I thought about it a while, weighing the pros and cons of calling him out on it, then I sent him this;
"Cool well if you wanted to find a way to show me you’re an immature dickhead without the least bit of empathy or courage to deal with emotion, I guess you found it.
Being cheated on doesn’t give you free license to treat other people like shit. It’s incredibly disrespectful of you to just straight out ignore someone you’ve been sleeping with, regardless of where we were in our relationship together. You’ve really hurt me, and ignoring me doesn’t make that suddenly not happen. Whatever your reasons are, this isn’t ok. Grow the fuck up and learn how to be kind and honest."
I know I sound angry. But I am. We don’t need to be chill about this shit. It’s awful and it hurts and that is legitimate. Saying we need to act like it doesn't matter to us feels like being shamed for being emotional or for caring about someone.
Seriously guys it's not that hard to even just send a brief 5-10 word message to end things. By ghosting you're literally saying (or at least it feels this way) - "you are not worth a few minutes of my time to explain this to you, and nothing we experienced together meant anything to me."
and that's awful.
PS. He replied to that and said he was sorry, he didn't want to hurt me. Too late, idiot.
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