I (25F) have dated some wonderful guys in my past where the early stages of dating were easy and eventually led to a relationship. What made them easy? There was MUTUAL interest/effort and NO ROOM for feeling confused!
We took the time to see each other in person, text, and phone call. If one of us was busy, we would let the other person know. Easy.
Because of this history, I know the signs of someone who is NOT interested. Also because I have done these things myself when I was iffy about someone or just not feeling it (but willing to see where things go).
I am seeing a guy (27M) who is clearly showing signs of not being interested. For instance, taking 12+ hours to respond to my text messages (consistently) even when I know they aren't busy. Not taking initiative (not contributing to any date ideas, not asking me how my day went, not asking when I'm free next). I have to plan everything!
I started to feel quite anxious and confused - feelings I previously have rarely felt in dating because I was used to someone actually being interested in me. I now realize it's time to cut this person off because the way I'm feeling (insecure/anxious/confused) is unhealthy and not how I want to feel in the beginning stages.
The early stages of dating SHOULD be easy because the effort of both of you is obvious. If you have seen this person 5+ times and you feel confused, that they are not putting in effort, or that communication is minimal - please bring it up to them. If they do not change their behavior? Simple. They are not interested enough in you.
We all deserve to date someone who is as enthusiastic about seeing us as we are them! Yes, we all get busy in our lives, but when you truly like someone, you will make time for them because you want to make it work :)
EDIT: If you are seeing each other 2x a week or more in person, frequent communication over phone is NOT necessary since the in person is keeping the momentum going. I'm talking about if you see each other only 1x a week or less :)
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