I (30M) volunteer at a certain place regularly and couple of years ago I bumped into this insanely hot girl here. She's the kind that is distractingly hot. She is the "I have no idea how she's out and about like this" kind of hot even if she's not even trying, lol!
For the past few years I have been focusing just on myself and working on my personal growth and I've been making it a point to stay away from women and definitely away from hot women or women I'm attracted to. So I never really talked to her even though she's been smiling at me and trying to get my attention etc. But it's been a couple of years and she's still checking me out and smiling at me while passing by and definitely seems interested and curious. So basically I have this hot girl interested in me from the moment we first laid eyes on each other up until now even though I haven't really reciprocated. This is gold for me because I like to take things reaaaaaaally slow. Most girls drop out before I get warmed up so the fact that she's still interested after 2 years of no reciprocation seems promising.
Recently though I've been feeling ready to get back into the dating game and opened up to talking to women etc. So I recently went up to her and introduced myself and just got her name. And we say hi when we bump into each other. And we've bumped into each other only a handful of times since then. Still haven't had a real conversation, I don't even know her age though she must be a few years younger than me. I didn't want to seem too eager or pushy so I've not asked for her number yet. I am trying hard to keep it really natural and organic. Cuz I'm so sure that this girl gets hit on so often that it would be an instant turn off if I start seeming too eager and seem like the other guys. So I'm keeping the interest levels casual. Maybe even seeming distant and showing mild interest from time to time. At the same time I make sure that I show interest enough to not discourage her. For instance sometimes I know she's around but I just carry on with my work as I would if she wasn't around. And if she's hovering around too long I smile or check her out from the corner of my eyes in a way she notices. Yes, it's very subtle at the moment. But I think that's what keeps this going because girls like her need some distance to feel interested. It's probably refreshing for her.
The nice thing about this Covid-19 lockdown is that I was supposed to leave this place a few days ago but everything has been shut down and a bunch of us who're here are stuck here from going home. We get screened regularly but because the campus is all closed down from outsiders we can roam around within as long as we don't get too close to others. So I'm having it better than what it would be if I'd gone home. And it's convenient that we're stuck together.
Now I want to make progress. I know that she's interested. Not sure about the nature of interest. I think she's "interested" interested but it could also turn out that she's just curious and wouldn't mind a friendship. And I wouldn't mind either to be honest, if it turns out to be just a friendship.
And a bit about myself - I don't know if I can say I'm super hot but I'm definitely above average and routinely get displays of interest from women and some girls that I'm close to have told me that I definitely have a strong presence and sense of attraction.
Ideally I want to go slow and move closer to her in an organic way. I don't want to show a sudden influx of interest after seeming distant for so long. I'm also aware that I could easily get friendzoned if I come on to her too strongly. It's so fragile lol
I've always struggled with converting potential interest into an actual relationship. I'm looking for tips to not f this up lol
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