Sex is great and all... But my life doesn't depend on it. I don't have to have sex with some random person by day's end if I can't find anyone else. I get that sex feels good for a temporary, ephemeral amount of time. But I wouldn't find it enjoyable with some strangers from a club who I'm only going to ghost because I don't want to actually have a relationship with them.
And yet... That seems to be what our culture has amounted to. I'm not even joking. I'm in my mid-twenties... And I already see the generational gap with people in their early twenties and late teens talk as if sex isn't something you have with someone you want to date. It's just something to pass the time with basically anyone.
Why has this become so prevalent?
If I have sex with you it's because I find you attractive. And if I find you attractive then I'm going to want to date you and start a relationship. If we decide we're not compatible in this time then we can end it. But I don't see how having sex with a bunch of strangers... Or having 'side people' who you have sex with in the interim until you find someone you ACTUALLY want to date comes along.
The most logical answer I can come up with is experience. But most of these people have more experience than most... So what's with the trend? What's the appeal?
Edit: I was talking about this with my sister today (we live in a small town). But one of her female friends is sleeping with one of her male friends. They aren't even CLOSE friends. But they know each other well enough to have agreed upon this transactional arrangement because they both want to wake up to a 'warm body'. I personally don't get this. A warm body is nice to wake up to when you care for them and love them and want a relationship with them. But why would you want to wake up to just any warm body? Especially one you have no intention of getting into a relationship with.
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