I matched with a guy (who I honestly thought was a little out of my league) on Bumble last week and we had a nice, friendly conversation on the app but I noticed he wasn't really making any moves. Therefore I sent him my number over chat and to my surprise he texted me and took up my offer for a lunch date. At that point I had him do some of the work in setting up plans too, so he chose the location and time, sometimes double-texting me so I figured there was some interest on his part.
Today we met up for lunch and I don't know what it was but I just felt really "off." Maybe since he didn't initially ask me out I thought he wasn't that interested so that put me in the wrong mindset. He was also so much more attractive in person than in his photos that it threw me off. So even though I'm on the shy side, I'm usually only nervous before the date and then relax once we start talking. However this time the nerves really got to me and I had a shaky/quiet voice at times, rambling, stiff body language, etc. It did get better and we had a lot of things in common (school, work, friends, music), so we did click at some points, but I could tell that my initial awkwardness was a bit of a turn-off for him. He did offer to pay so maybe it wasn't too awful, but he was socially confident/extroverted in general so maybe he was just being polite. But at the end of the hour-long date we didn't hug or kiss, make plans, etc. just did the whole "nice meeting you" thing, and he also hasn't texted me.
I was thinking of sending him a text tomorrow saying: "Hey! Thanks again for lunch and sorry if it seemed weird. I was kind of nervous yesterday, but I'd like to hang out again another time if you would. But if not, it's no big deal!" or something to that effect. Does this seem too "desperate" or is it still worth a shot?
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