The first things that comes to your mind after reading the title is obvious.
I can't get girls my age. I'm a sexual predator. I'm a creep. I'm seeking to take advantage of an immature girl. And so on. I know what many of you are thinking.
I know myself, however. I'm honestly happy with who I am right now. I'm confident, social, workout, take care of my skin, play many sports, have many dear hobbies, go to a pretty decent uni, and have close friends that I really enjoy spending time with. I'm not awkward with girls and genuinely have girls like me quite a lot, and have had many tell me that they liked me (I had to reject for personal reasons each time). As sly and creepy as all this explaining this sounds, I need you guys to trust me that I'm a sound, wholesome boy with high moral values.
Getting back, it was when some friends I was with invited another of their friend, and I knew her because she goes to the same high school I went to. Just as friends, our chemistry was fantastic and we had really fun conversations. We would continue to see eachother for many more days to come when we'd meet up as larger friend groups, and thus we obviously spent a lot of time with eachother. To some it became clear that we had "something" going, we had great chemistry, similar personalities, and similar hobbies. It was soon after that I'd get bombarded with teases and even disgust by my (older) friends, to whom it seemed super wierd that I was "pursuing" anything at all with a minor. I asked some of my close friends and their first reaction was that it's no good. I didn't make any moves or anything, just continued being myself, but then I was told by her friend that she really likes me.
To reiterate, I know myself very well. I'm not a sexual predator, and forbid me from liking a girl for who she is. When with her, I feel that she is a lot more mature than many many 16 year olds I know, though there are a few instances when I can sense a slight maturity gap. Nonetheless, I haven't felt so at ease and relaxed being with someone in a very long time.
Last time our group got together at a friend's house, we pretty much confessed about our feelings for one another, we both knew it at that point. But I said I need time to think about it. The worst thing is that I genuinely really really like her, if she were 18 I wouldn't even skip a single beat asking her out.
So that's the current standing, me unable to make a decision and constantly feeling the societal pressure bogging down on me from up high. My question is, am I overreacting to the age gap? Or is it genuinely a bad decision, and we shouldn't pursue anything, and instead stay as friends.
Thanks for reading guys, any and all advice is greatly appreciated, I'm digging myself into a hole here.
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