Apologies for the long tale- I'm a chatty cathy ;)
So this guy (m27) and I (f25) matched on hinge a few weeks back. Convo was good, but he and I both said we're not too great at replying on dating apps so I gave him my number and the conversation moved to texting. We followed each other on insta (I had asked to see some of his paintings that he does) and when he followed me back he sent a recent-ish post I had made about my recent weight loss (down 43lbs :D) along with a message saying he loved how positive my message behind the post was, and was really inspired. It was such a kind and genuine gesture, that pushed me to really want to meet this guy and get to know him in person. Of course I said thank you, and he congratulated me again and told me how incredible my handwork was.
So we kept up with the texting for a few days, and what I enjoyed the most was the fact it was ACTUAL conversation. Not the usual banter and wit I keep having with my other matches/guys I've seen in the past. He truly seemed like the opposite from the normal douchey/only want to casually date guys I normally end up talking to. He reads (ALOT), paints in his spare time (genuinely talented), close with his family, great job in corporate marketing world, smart, a bit nerdy (love) but seems like a normal well rounded kind of guy. So I asked him last minute on a Friday night if he was free on Saturday for a drink. He said potentially, depended on the time/part of the city. Long story short, I was at a photoshoot all afternoon and he had plans with friends so he said to take a raincheck. I told him no problem, let me know when you're free.
No response till sunday evening, asks how my dinner was, and then says it was his birthday so the weekend was a bit crazy. Then spends the whole night (ON HIS BIRTHDAY) texting me back and forth, asking questions, carrying good convo. The next night asks me how my day was, again good genuine convo. However, I noticed he only ever messaged between 9pm and midnight. Never in the morning or during the day. At first I didnt think to much about it. Maybe he isnt a texter (his messages are more 'dry' compared to my style). But I didnt want to overthink things. Anyways I find out hes going to montreal for a week with his family, but again he stops replying for a couple days. So I reached out again asking if he wanted to grab a drink before he leaves for his trip, however he already had plans. He replies to other messages, asks questions, even sends a photo of the piece he's been working on he wanted to show me. I reply, and end up saying let me know what your life looks like when you're back so I can stop trying to ask you out last minute (I also jokingly pointed out he only replies at night). And now NOTHING. RADIO SILENCE AGAIN. Not even a reply to my other messages replying to his messages. Now hes in mtl so I doubt I will hear from him for a bit.
Truly I just can't tell if he is interested or not? Have I come across as desperate here? Why does this man only message at night, always with engaging convo/questions, but then leave me on read till I restart the convo? How come everytime I propose a date he never offers up an alternative after hes said no??? I've always felt if you're interested in someone you make it known and put in effort, but Im feeling like he doesnt want to put in effort?
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