So I've now reached my 40s. Just turned 41 actually. Dating has always been difficult for me but now there seems to be a new complication. I've always looked way younger than I actually am. Currently people tend to think I'm in my very early 30s. People, especially men are often awestruck when they find I'm much older. But now that I've reached my 40s its kinda been phased out with this sort of dismay or even disgust, as if I've deceived them into thinking I'm of a more "dateable age". My earliest brush with such disgust was when I was 36. I was seeing a guy who was 33. Since we have the same friends I assumed he knew my age. Luckily he was drunk enough not to shy away from letting me know how grossed out he was upon finding out I was not 26 as he thought. He ghosted me after that. I've not been on one single date in years after that, in fact I just got dumped by my 3.5 yrs long BF a couple months ago. So I've not even tried dating anyone yet, but already I'm coming to the realization that once I decide I'm ready, I feel compelled to disclose my age up front before anyone has a chance to begin crushing on me. Like it feels like its right up there with the need for someone who has an STD to disclose their condition up front. Am I really that offensive to be 41 and look a decade younger???
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