For a while I have foolishly dismissed other people's idea on online dating. My own experience clouded my judgement. My own ability to break up with someone three weeks ago and find a nice guy the next made me ignorant to many people's disadvantages. Psssh well I can find someone why can't you, it must be you. Foolishly I dismiss the majorities experience believing that my outlier experience is what will happen to everyone sooner or later. That is not true. I finally get it, online dating doesn't work for many. And it isn't because everyone sucks, or everyone is doing it wrong. It is because it is designed to help the few.
For many (majority actually) it is an endless cesspool of incompatibility, no reactions, and people too rude to properly tell you what they want. I will say this I don't think this is how humans were meant to connect, interact, or fall in love. It is robotic, based on shallow things, and puts the already disadvantaged at a even more of a disadvantage. Dating apps are designed to keep you coming back, based on that little bit of hope you have. I don't think old is bad I think for most it's terrible, and while I am an outlier the majority are far more important than the very few.
I am on this subreddit often, and I think telling someone to just be a bit more happy have hope and suck it up was a big mistake of mine. OLD needs a huge revamp of not only it design, but the way it connects people. Online dating should not just work for few, since it is are main way of dating it should work for almost everyone.
Back to blacklist and wine I go
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