Divorce was finalized about 8 months ago, I moved on. Met a girl I am really serious about and makes me happy. Life with the ex was miserable, cold and unloving. She rejected me constantly ans didn’t want to reciprocate. Now she’s on her own and of course the grass isn’t greener on the other side. Life is much harder for her without me, for me however the weight of the world is off my shoulders. For the first time in years I’m happy, I have hardly any stress and that’s despite a high stress job. Home life is peaceful, the house is cleaner, I hired cleaning ladies to take care of stuff for me, basically everything she did has been replaced for not much money and nobody is spending money like water. Fast forward to a few months ago, met a girl I’m crazy about. For the past few months ex has been hinting at regret because she found out it’s harder without me. But not ever hinting that she misses me or loves me, basically just may as well just say it’s what I bring to the table but not me. New girl is amazing, I could see being serious with her. Only problem, our kid schedules run opposite weekends. I asked the Ex to modify the schedule. She easily could swap weekends, has no BF, no reason not too. She lost her mind, basically bitter that I have moved on. How do I respond to this craziness? She’s the one that didn’t love me back, didn’t want to be with me and initiated the divorce (she just beat me to the punch) now says she’s hurt I moved on, become insanely spiteful and vindictive saying awful things to me. I shrug them off taking the high road because I known it’s pointless to argue with crazy but I don’t know how long I can keep that up. There’s zero chance in hell I would ever consider taking her back, I would never put myself through any of mental abuse she put me through again. I didn’t realize how mentally abusive it was until I got out and had a chance to analyze and evaluate the history of the last 8 years of the marriage. I could drag her to court and force the issue but I don’t want to do that unless it’s a last resort. It’s insane to me that someone who rejected me, put me through mental and emotional he’ll thinks I should have just sat alone post divorce and is now legitimately angry AF because I moved and am getting serious with someone I’m in love with. Not sure what advice if any I’m looking for, mainly I needed to get this out. Don’t really have anyone to vent too, I’m usually the only everyone else comes to and am expected to be the rock for everyone else. Because of that, everyone assumes I’m strong enough to handle anything and always have all the right answers. The truth is I don’t.
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