To start I’d say you’re at a big advantage if you approach them versus matching on a dating app. It shows you’re confident and doing something most guys won’t do. With dating apps less men are approaching which makes it easier and you have a bigger pool of singles since not everyone uses dating apps.
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to start you should ideally look for some sort of eye contact from the other person and don’t wait a long time to approach them or else you’ll start to appear weak or creepy checking them out for so long.
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you should approach them from the front and no surprise taps on the shoulder from behind which could startle her or make her uncomfortable... and walk calmly / talk clear and slow.
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smile / don’t be fidgety.
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don’t stand face to face with them but make some eye contact while pointing your body slightly away from them is less invasive.
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don’t expect that talking to them equals “you must get a phone # / date” for all you know they are taken and you must start with small victories. Ex you talked to a cute girl that was cool. Even if you get that phone # they might not be interested.
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if she doesn’t seem interested (one word answers / not smiling) say hey, well I hope you have a fun rest of your night!
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Don’t worry about what your friends or other people think. They are shitty friends if they judge you for shooting your shot when they don’t have the balls to do the same.
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if she says she has a boyfriend or girlfriend that’s a soft rejection (maybe it’s the truth or maybe it isn’t) but respect that this girl or guy is faithful and you don’t want to get involved with someone in a relationship anyhow.
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don’t think well she or he is super hot so people must hit on them all the time. If anything people are more intimidated and some never hit on them which makes it even easier! It’s common for girls to say I just wish a guy would approach me when I’m out.
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include the friends early in the convo. Talk to them as a group don’t single out one girl or guy.
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if you’re with a friend and that person isn’t present or at another place say hey my friend so and so over there and try to wave them over and introduce them / say something nice about this person. It’s rude to just disappear on your friend and then not introduce them. Sure they may like your friend more than you but you’re a great friend if you helped set them up.
In most cases people are friendly it’s pretty rare that anyone is rude to someone that just comes off as a friendly girl or guy. Someone who’s rude to a stranger is not someone you’d want to date or be friends / co workers with etc anyhow!
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