I saw a post earlier about just confessing your feeling to your crush, can it work? yes. But that only works if two people already are into each other but too shy to make a move, so it's really rare. Most of the case you crush doesn't know you well enough so you gonna get shot down. And no, it does not offload the burden on your shoulder or channel your inner peace. It sucks and people gonna need time to get past the traumatic experience of rejection, some might never do. Confessing your love is not taking a shot, more like shooting yourself right at your own heart.
What you should do is to start with baby steps, try to initiate a conversation, message ... insert yourself into your crush life, get into her social circle. Getting to know her AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE and make sure she knows you too. Most of the time you can feel your crush attitude towards you and can tell if it's a green light to move forward.
Even at that stage, don't drop a "love bomb", it can be overwhelmed for your crush and you just rob yourself a chance of getting a real shot. Instead, casually asking her out and just the two of you without your mutual circle of friend.
Sample dialogue:
Her: I like sushi.
You: Oh I know this restaurant X that has good tobiko sushi. Do you want to go there sometimes?
Option 1: she said yes then you set the time
Option 2: she said no or reluctant (she's not that into you)
Even if she said no, she let you down easier so you guys can still see each other at school/work without the awkwardness like after confessing your love. It could still hurt but you'll heal faster knowing that you tried.
Be patient. Play the long game. And most important of all: be the real you.
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