How do you manage / have you managed the ambiguous relationships of your life? Those gordian knots in which you are friends but strange things happen anyway but you don't want to do anything to keep the relationship at least friendly but at the same time it bothers you when he is seeing someone?
Let me explain: I met a friend (25M) of my last ex a year ago with whom I became very friends but twice within six months he tried to hit on me. The first time I rejected him because I didn't know him very well, the second when we were sleeping in the same bed (we had a lot of confidence) and he didn't do it in the "sunlight", we ended up sleeping hand in hand because I essentially refused the other more explicit advances.
Then I tried to talk about it because I wanted to understand if it was because he wanted a one night stand or if he was interested in me but he avoided me for a whole month and in the end nothing was done.
Now, every now and then ambiguous little things happen, jokes and things like that, he hasn't tried on me anymore, we both heard other people for a while (never anything serious that interfered with our relationship) but it never bothered anyone from both parts.
We went out together a short time ago in a group with our mutual friends and pointed to an acquaintance of mine with whom I started talking to, then he followed her on instagram and this thing drives me crazy inside because I'm very afraid that I can be put aside or replaced since she and I are very similar (we are both photographers and we have a lot of traits in common both physical and temperamental)
We never really talked about what happened and I honestly don't really know how to behave because I have always decided not to hit on him as he has different manipulative attitudes that I personally would not tolerate in a relationship, besides the fact that he has cheated on every girl he had been with so I don't see why he wouldn't do it with me? I always thought I would prefer a friendship given these incompatibilities at the base but now I'm completely freaking out and I don't know how to manage it
Among other things, we work together very often for projects and things like that so I wouldn't want anything that could break our relationship from the artistic point of view which would be a shame
Help?? Thank you
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