Make your intentions clear as soon as you are interested in someone and brave enough to let them know, however that entails, because leave it too late and you are forced to face the consequences.

One of my biggest mistakes when it comes to dating, feeling less attractive or not; is not making my intentions to who I am interested in early enough.

Sometimes I did. Especially in my younger years, because I found I was never really scared of cared of other people's opinions; but I was more afraid of the person I was interested in's opinions. That's what would always hold me back.

I feel like this has been almost single handedly, what has let me down over the years especially in my teens and now 20's because of bullying, probably. Suffering unnecessary heartache because of my inability to take the hit of rejection and move forward. I have actually had more results from walking straight up to someone and asking about them and if they are interested in me if they seemed to be; than holding off and tormenting myself wondering.

If you are too shy or scared to let the other person know how you feel, it is likely one of two situations that can pan out from this: 1) they are not interested in you, and your lack of bravery and honesty is making it worse 2) you have no one to blame but yourself for what follows.

How they treat you, how they are behave around you, how they feel about you, in a form of reciprocation, will all depend on how much you are sharing and communicating with the other person.

I feel like it is definitely possible because of my lack of honesty and bravery; specifically early enough, because I have been ridiculed during rejection in the past, it has made women possibly become aware of my real, true, intentions, and quite possibly have become frustrated and defensive around me. It has caused me to damage other people's relationships as a result for my own selfish reasons of fulfilment, rather than just learning from it and learning for the next time.

Like I said. If you do not act quick enough, do not blame the other person for not seeing it. If they are not fully interested in you they have a right to that. It is up to you at that point on to make your interest clear to them. Otherwise, move along and allow them to date who they want.

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