Besides sex appeal, obviously.
The parts of Reddit I lurk on regularly bring up that you need to "bring something to the table" in a relationship - being nice or decent isn't enough, you aren't owed anything for being a decent person, etc. You need to be good enough to earn someone's love. As I read more about it though, I start noticing that that kind of advice is more aimed at men, with an assumption that women can always get by on their looks.
I tend to internalize advice for men for no good reason. Even reading self-improvement stuff for men and just mentally filtering out all the stuff that doesn't apply. That's besides the point. I've never had a real relationship before and wanted to start dating in the new year, and figuring out my "role" leaves me upset and confused. Articles discuss how female SMV is all about looks, with a dash of virginity. Anecdotes of others people's experiences suggest there's more to it, even on the male side. Getting hobbies and personal projects is good for me, personally, but does it play any role in women's dating game or not? Especially because I am, frankly, overweight and funny-looking - ie, not hot enough to get away with just giggling and batting my eyes and telling my date how amazing he is.
This is likely just looking for reassurance but I wouldn't mind hearing opinions.
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