So a little backstory. Me (26M) and my Ex girlfriend (28F) met in December and started dating about a month later. We had a very rocky relationship. She was very dramatic and high maintenance and I'm a low intensity kind of guy and have issues with self esteem, anxiety, and depression. We would go through a cycle, something small would start an argument which would develop into a much larger argument and fight. I would find my fault in the argument and apologize, we'd have sex and make up. A few days and everything would be ok and then the cycle would start all over. It was very unhealthy and I knew I should have ended things but I felt like someone cared about me and I was getting laid.
Fast forward to the end of July. We had a fight and I placed the blame on her and wouldn't apologize for the fight. That put us in an awkward position because she knew it was her fault but she was incapable of apologizing and trying to make things better. Between relationship stress and a high amount of work stress I went into a depressive state and was unable to go into work. I slept most of the day and woke up to my land lady telling me that she was going to sell the house I was living at and I had a little over a month to move out. So now work has been stressful, I'm depressed, and now I'm being removed from the house I've lived at for the last 2 years. I go to my best friends house because I need a hug and to vent. She hugs me and immediately offers to let me move in with her in the house she just bought. We hung out and she helped me feel well enough to go to a party later that night. My girlfriend was at the party and I tried to talk to her about what I was going through and she provided no support to me and was distant from me for the whole night. I went home alone and fell asleep.The next morning I texted her asking her if we could talk and if she could show me some support through my struggles. It led to a fight and she dumped me. I didn't argue or fight, I just accepted it and started moving on. So now in less than 24 hours I was told I am losing my home and I lost my girlfriend. But my best friend invited me to a party and I had a fantastic time and realized that I am not alone and I have some amazing friends.
I am a 'Cut and Run' kind of guy, out of a necessity for more mental well being. I get really bad anxiety and panic attacks when I see or am around any of my ex girlfriends. So I unfriend, unfollow, basically I remove myself from any and all of their social media, I try to minimize any and all contact with them. The next week, I was going to a birthday party at a local Goth nightclub. It was a birthday party for a close friend of mine. My Ex told me she never liked going to the club and didn't know the birthday girl very well. Imagine my displeasure when I see my Ex standing in line at the club in front of me and when she stopped in the entry way and was trying to make eye contact with me. I ignored her and moved past her, I was determined to not let her presence ruin my night with some of my closest friends. She disappeared after about a half hour and the night continued without incident. The next night was a birthday party and again she showed up. Then a few days later she showed up to a monthly social dance that she had not been to in nearly 6 months.
It seems like she keeps going to events just try and cause drama with me. I won't stop going to events and I won't talk to her, despite her repeated attempts to make me be her friend. I've explained very carefully and in as neutral of a way as possible that I can not be her friend and I need my space. She accepted my explanation and said that she would leave me alone until I contacted her. She then proceeded to show up to all of the same events as me. I don't know what to do. I don't want to engage with her, but I can't keep getting anxious at every event waiting for her to show up. Help?
TL;DR: Girlfriend dumped me and then proceeds to show up to all my major social events after I cut off all contact with her. What do I do?
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