Tl;dr - I am a 36 year old man and I have reached a point in my life where I no longer want to put in the time and effort to meet and date. I even turn down automatic booty calls. WTF, me?!?
So, I am a social guy. I have a few great friends and a bunch of good ones, men and women. I am a good talker, a great listener, and I am confident. I have a good job in the tech industry. I am relatively okay looking, 6'1" 200lbs and I stay athletic-ish by eating right and playing sports a few nights a week. When I want to put myself out there, I have no problems meeting the opposite sex. I have had 6 relationships in my life lasting more than six months, but only 1 that lasted more than a year. I was the deciding factor in all of my break ups (except for one particular crazy gf that would have literally killed me if I dumped her, so I just started being a lazy, apathetic bf to her and she dumped me, thank God).
I hope that none of that makes me sound like a complete douche, I am just trying to give some of you context before explaining my current situation.
I no longer find it necessary to do the whole dog n pony show of meeting and dating women in order to find a soul mate or booty call or one night stand or anything. Living the life as a single guy with close to no stress or relationship obligations out trumps my need for companionship, love, or even sex. My libido has been reduced to a few flickers a year, and only usually when I am drunk (which also only occurs a few times a year).
There's a small part of me that wonders what life would be like with someone I truly cared about who shared my same interests and maybe helped me raise a few little nuggets of our own (or I'd even adopt if possible), but the other 99% likes my freedom. I can do anything I want whenever I want. If I REALLY need my carnal desires fulfilled, I can put in the effort to get some action. It's soulless, but it's sufficient.
I have enough friends that whenever I want companionship, I can make a call and go to a movie or meet for dinner or drinks. In fact, a lady friend JUST texted me right now to go for a drink. Huh. Well I guess I better go. She's just a friend, but that's all I desire.
I've lost my mojo and I don't know why. It's not like I've been married to some she-devil for 15 years and hate my life etc. I am a single healthy dude and I just don't care to be dating anymore. I've turned down booty call requests 5 weeks in a row. WTF.
Anyone else out here like me?
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