We've dated for 7 months and known each other for about 9. Met him on a dating app. All of our values align with each other and we have great communication and he's the healthiest bf I've ever dated. He loves me but I can't shake the feeling that something is missing or not exciting enough.
This is my 3rd relationship, past 2 were volatile and abusive.
We don't really get each other's humor past surface level, and I find that very important with bonding in friendships and relationships I guess.
I've been waking up with anxiety about not being sure if he's the right person for me and he's well aware bc I'm a bit distant sometimes but we've discussed this and were honest about it about halfway through the 7 months.
This has come up again now and the other day he broke up with me bc he said he's ready for someone to love him back. And I just either don't feel ready yet or that I'm not sure he's right for me. (I also have really bad anxiety in general, looking into meds)
I respect him and his need for love and I also don't want to hurt him anymore, or be anxious.
He reached out and said he was willing to be more patient with me if I was willing and saw potential.
Truth is I think he's so wonderful and has so many qualities that I have yearned for, he's patient, accepting, loving, committed, responsible.
I'm not even sure myself why I'm so conflicted.
Is humor worth sacrificing all that?
I told him we should both think about what's best for us and give it some time to see if getting back together is a good idea.
I miss him dearly, but I want to do what's respectful and responsible for the both of us.
Thank you so much for reading and would appreciate any insights.
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