I'm mostly just using this to vent rn. I've (24f) been single for a few years and have downloaded the apps just to delete them a few weeks later because I get annoyed by their "expectations" and how men talk to me. Then I feel like a total joke when a guy will be talking to me and seem genuinely interested, but then as soon as I give him my number or we meet up, suddenly it's "send pics" or "I bought you dinner so now I deserve x, y, z". Then when I say no thanks, I'm ghosted or ridiculed for being a prude.
Like is it just me or is the effort from men just not there anymore? Sometimes I feel like they really don't have to put in effort because if 4 outta the 5 girls put out then who really cares about the 1 that doesn't. There's always another option in his back pocket. I know the same can be said for girls. I know not all girls want a relationship and more power to you. I just know that I can't hook up with someone just for the nut. I need to vibe with you first.
I've had this conversation with my girlfriends and they all kinda say, "well, maybe if I do put out he might like me enough to make me his gf." I just can't get on a level of what if because at the end of the day I just feel worse and used.
Is this a relatable feeling?
Edit-For those saying I'm aiming outta my league. I understand what I look like and the men I can obtain. I'm very average and I think my taste in men reflect that in all honesty. I am stating what I want from the beginning. I'm not saying men have to take me out on 5 dates first. It's more like I'm not one to cuddle awkwardly on your couch for 20 minutes until we start getting freaky.
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