I contacted this woman through an online dating service. The woman is real (profiles are manually verified), and it is probably not scam (that service is very good at filtering it out), so while I'll be careful that's not what I'm worried about. What bothers me is the lack of effort on her part.
I put quite a bit of time into writing a thoughtful introductory email in which I refer to what she wrote in her profile and the images she has posted there. (The email was about as long as this question, so it had some substance but wasn't overwhelming for a first email.) Now I find it both disappointing and a bit disrespectful that she doesn't reply in a similar manner, asking about or replying to what I wrote about myself and telling me (more) about herself.
It feels kind of lazy that she just sent me a oneliner asking me to continue on WhatsApp, and I'm worried that our communication (both online and in real life) will continue to have this imbalance. I've had a few experiences with women wanting to switch from my first email to WhatsApp, and always it felt like I'm writing to a teenager who is distracted and disinterested. I guess the medium doesn't readily lend itself to deep conversations, but even when I tried to adapt to the chat rhythm, I felt like I had to drag it all out of them.
Would you follow up on her reply? And if so, how would you play the next few messages on WhatsApp?
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