I would like to kick off with my own "story" and I'm very much interested in your stories as well!
First and foremost I want to make that clear that I'm not passing on other women because of her. I have been on Tinder dates.
She is 30F and I'm 27M.
She is going through a divorce and is in a fresh relationship. Unfortunately we realized (well, she had a crush on me for quite some time, I just didn't realize) we click very well shortly after they got together (around the 1 month mark, they have been currently dating for 3 months), it's soulmate level and we both feel that way (the other guy knows about this too, we had a nice little chat and he told me the woman actually told him how she feels about me, she told him she feels more connected to me emotionally). I made it clear to her that I don't just want to screw around and I can only imagine something serious with her. When I told her this, I didn't know about the other guy. This scared her and she told me she is currently not ready for a serious relationship, but she could imagine the rest of her life with me. We talk a lot every day, when we see each other we both instantly smile, there is a vibration between us and we both feel it (we discussed it). Unfortunately kisses happened and even almost had sex 3 times now (I denied her every time and told her I don't want to start this off as lovers), so it is very clear she is attracted to me. She asked me plenty of times when spending time together (concerts, etc) and things got heated if I actually want to start this as lovers. I denied her every time. We still talk everyday and often slip into more-than-friends level discussions and she ends up saying we can't do that YET. We discussed this many times and we both agreed to just try and stay at a very good friend level for now also because she wants to know me even better and as a friend too. She won't dump the guy, because apparently he provides what is currently enough for her and she doesn't feel ready for a serious relationship (considering she is currently getting out of a marriage). Apparently they constantly have fights because of me (he has issues the way she looks at me and stuff like that).
Also quite some time (months) passed and the feeling didn't weaken for either of us (she admitted after a month, that initally she thought this will just pass or get weaker, but it actually just got a lot stronger).
I know this all sounds fucked up and I'm probably on the emotional level of a walrus, but I don't have many experience in relationships (never really had a serious one for example) and this situation feels very complicated to me both emotionally and mentally. It's like we both want each other and not just sexually, but since she doesn't feel ready we can't have it. My gut tells me that we will eventually end up together (given how special the connection is between us).
Did any one of you "wait" for your significant other? What was it like, how did you make it through your days knowing happiness is thiiiis close but you can't have it yet? Did it work out eventually?
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