I’m currently going through a breakup that was forced by her parents. I’m[16m] and she is[16F].
As the title says this whole situation was caused by her parents.
Time for the story: We have been dating for about two months, we went to homecoming together where our parents met for the first time. Her parents even complimented me toward her parents saying “He is such a gentleman, and composed himself well in conversation.”
We then continued to go out almost every week until last weekend, where she was crazy busy and couldn’t leave the house. Last Sunday she had an argument with her parents. In an attempt to comfort her I asked if she wanted to talk about it (not pushing just offering support) and she said no. I left that there.
Monday comes ,we see each other like normal in passing periods at school. Everything is great we are both happy and joking with each other like normal. At the end of the school day I bring my friend home who lives in the same neighborhood as her. On most days she will call me when she gets off the bus, and after I drop my friend off I will go over to her house where we will talk for a few minutes before we both go home to do homework, go to work, etc (we did this like normal).
I head home get ready for work. Get in my car, check my phone like normal before I start driving and see a full paragraph not explicitly stating we are breaking up but implying it. (here it is https://imgur.com/a/dQii0sJ second text will come in later. ). At this point I’m completely broken and call my mother to talk about it. I go to work, manage to hold it together until my shift is over, go home, and when I get home I completely break.
Fast forward to Thursday: this is where the second text in that imgur link come in. On Monday after school she had gave me back my jacket and Nintendo switch which she had been borrowing, except forgot the charger. She gave it back to me after school. When I saw her she was completely broken emotionally and mentally. Her face was red as if she had been probably been crying, and she couldn’t look at me without almost breaking down (I could tell she was struggling to hold it together). Granted I didn’t know yet that her parents made her do this.
Our conversation went like this: Me: can I ask you a question? Her: looks at me and nods. Me: Look I probably don’t want to know the answer to this and you probably don’t want to tell me but, Was this you or your parents? Her: under her breath said “my parents” At which point she started to walk away Me:I put my hand on her shoulder and said “Look I don’t hate you, I can’t hate you. And I do still have feeling for you too.” At this point she smiled and turned her head away to go to her bus. I could tell that she was trying so hard not to break down right then and there. I broke down when I got in my car. That was the last I heard from or saw her
Later that night I sent her a text saying “I don't hate you and never will. I still love you more than you could ever know. It sucks it happened this way. When you are ready to talk about it, if you are ever ready to talk about it I'm here. I always will be. “
I have already heard the whole “ You can’t do anything about it.”, “You can’t sit and wait for someone.”, “I saw this coming.”(my own mother said that one), and the whole “You’re 16 and shouldn’t be dating”. And don’t really want to hear it again. I just don’t know where to go from here, or really even what to do. Any and all advice is welcome. Thanks in advance.
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