Just saw someone’s comment about how they’re not going to date someone who is a virgin and how it’s a red flag if someone’s 25 and still a virgin.
I’ve seen quite a lot of comments like that over the years and I just want to say something, which so that this is exactly the kind of thing that I really hate, which is looking down on people less experienced than them. I pray to god they are never put in a position of power for example where they have to mentor someone at work or be a manager. They’ll probably make the lives of people under them, who are likely less experienced, a living nightmare! I can totally imagine them blaming those people for being a total failure!
Like how is someone supposed to get better at something if people don’t have some patience and aren’t willing to give them a chance? I’m not saying that you need to have unlimited patience or to put up with things you don’t like for a long period of time, but at least be kind to them and be willing to give it a shot and try to teach them a little bit?
At work, I often work on projects with junior employees but imagine for a second that I decide that I just wanna work with senior employees who have more experience? Like fuck those junior employees they just aren’t good and I can’t be bothered teaching them anything? How are those people ever going to progress career wise? What if my seniors did the same? How on earth would I have ever progressed to a senior position? What if my employer had decided to not hire junior employees in the first place?
It’s a cycle, like how you need a job to get experience and need experience to get a job. So many people are trapped and it’s not necessarily their fault, because it’s other people’s actions that trap them there and create this cycle.
If you’re more experienced than someone, don’t forget that you were once in a position where you had zero experience and other people probably looked down upon you too, but maybe someone decided to not let your inexperience bother them, which allowed you to become better at the thing.
Be kind, pay it forward and lift other people up please. It’s okay to have preferences and rules, but please think deeply about them and the wider impact of having them on dating. Your preferences can be actively harmful!
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