This is the response I got on another post (not linking it here to prevent people identifying the poster, please don't go looking!). Some women expect men to start a convo with something meaningful based on their profile. They want to get the vibe within the first couple of sentences. Else, piss off, I've other options. I am not disrespecting women, I am just trying to say, imagine being in a guy's position - we get this all the time. The sheer amount of disrespect and entitlement in these posts is both astounding and disturbing!
Her :
This right here. As a chick on OLD if the convo isn't good within the first couple of sentences, yeh I'll dip.
There are so many people on OLD so I'd rather not waste my time on someone that I haven't gotten good vibes with straight away.
Me :
This is exactly the kind of attitude that hurts men and women in the longer run. How can you judge a person by his first 2 sentences. Guys don't get responses back for their first messages like 90 percent of the times. It takes a mentally strong guy to even send -"Hi, how's your day going?".
I know saying "hey hottie", "hey sweetie" etc is a strict no. But anything other than that is worth a decent conversation.
Her:
I never said first two. If within the first couple of sentences that I find this guy isn't vibing with me, then I'm not going to waste time.
For me, I don't really want someone just saying hey how's everything going, I want an engaging starter based on something in my profile. That shows they've read it. I don't really care whether or not it's take a mentally strong guy to even send that, because if they can't take that jump, they're likely aren't aren't kind of person I need in my life.
Me:
You do understand that "a couple" means 2 right?. So first couple means first 2.
You want meaningful conversations in the first couple of sentences? You do realize that a guys don't get a response back about 90 percent of the times. You want them to put a lot of effort all the time only when the chance of getting a reply is 10 percent? . What's wrong with "Hey there. How's your day going?" followed by "a follow up question / statement on your response to the first question"?
Also, if you really want to know what guys go through (hear it from a woman who tried using tinder as a guy, watch this video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DZTIbHIsIYw)
I am not pissed at the poster's comments, I am merely disappointed by the lack of maturity shown here. And to the people who have not experienced this - this is the daily story of every guy on OLD who is not 9+ in looks.
I am not asking for pity, I am just saying - When someone rants about OLD, let them rant instead of putting them off by saying they did something wrong!
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