i’m 23 and started balding when i was 17 back when i had long emo hair that i rocked till i was 19. somehow i actually had the luck to go out with one girl and even got plenty of matches on dating apps back then. but when i started shaving fully bald at 20 because of severe hair loss, things just went downhill. it’s honestly killing my mental health because i keep feeling like i’m not worth loving just because i’m bald. i feel like i’m missing out on love completely in my twenties. i never had cute dates, never had matching profile pics or gave someone thoughtful little gifts. the longer i wait the more it feels like everyone else already had their first big love and all that cute stuff, and i’m just left behind feeling worse every year.
it starts with not getting matches on dating apps, then hearing “you’ve got a great personality” or “you’re cute,” only to be told right after that they don’t want to date a bald guy or that they prefer guys with long or fluffy hair. it’s exhausting.
i grew a beard, trimmed it properly, i’m getting jacked in the gym, i dress way better than before, and yet it still feels like it’s never enough. it’s not like i can change the fact that i’m balding. it’s not like i’m fat or have bad hygiene or zero style. it’s something i literally cannot change and i just don’t get why people care so much. i just want to be touched, i just want to be loved.
so basically i met this girl on the street a few days ago because i really liked her emo style and decided to just shoot my shot and ask for her number. she actually gave it to me, and for the last three days we’ve been talking for at least three hours a day till late at night. the conversations were so good. we found out we’re super similar when it comes to mental health stuff, music taste, fashion, shows we’ve watched, and even anime. we literally talked about all the dexter seasons and just vibed so well. everything felt easy and natural.
but today she told me she wouldn’t date a bald guy because it’s just not her type. i respect that, but it still hurts so much. why does everyone just scratch the surface. i’m more than just a bald head. i have feelings too.
for a while i had given up on love completely because i never even got the chance to go on dates. i just accepted that i’d be lonely until i’m 30 and my peers start balding too. but when i met her it felt different. it gave me hope again. it made me actually enjoy life again for a bit. but same old story as always.
i just needed to vent because this is like the third time i’ve gotten my hopes up just to end up picking up the pieces again. it feels like you’re just cooked if you go bald early. why is everyone so fcking shallow man.
i give up, whoever wanted to see me break. you've won
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