Me (19F) and my boyfriend (20M) have been together for about 2 months. Have known eo or like talking phase u can say idk for 6 months.
Okay so basically, what happened was that we’re in a relationship and all, and before that — when we used to talk, before we confessed or anything — he told me that he only had one ex. He said he hadn’t kissed her, hadn’t held hands, and all that.
Later, after we started dating and got serious, he told me that he actually lied about that. He said he didn’t have one ex — he had like four. And that he had kissed them, held hands with them, gone on dates, and just kisses all that not further more. When I asked why he was telling me this now, he said it’s because he wants to build this on honesty.
He also said he didn’t tell me before because he “wanted to make me feel special,” since I haven’t been in a relationship before, and he wanted to make my firsts feel like something unique. But honestly, that part just made me feel weird or idk but I still went along
Anyway, I also told him from the start that I’m not comfortable with kissing on the lips, and I set that as a boundary. I told him it’s something I am not comfortable and he said it’s fine and he respects that.
So, some time later, we were hanging out alone together — just chilling in a room — and later he msged said he wanted to “be honest” about something again. So I said okay. Then he told me that when I said I wasn’t comfortable kissing on the lips, he said he told me he was fine with it, but he wasn’t
He said that when we’re together, he feels like “our lips scream to be together.” Then he said he understands that I’m not comfortable and he gets it , but he just “wanted me to know.”
I told him that maybe it’s easy for him to say that, but it’s not easy for me, and I’m not at that comfort level. He said it’s fine, we don’t have to, and it’s just something he wanted to let me know
I don’t know honestly about this.
TL;DR: My boyfriend first lied that he had one ex and never kissed or held hands. Later, after we started dating, he confessed he actually had four exes and had done those things. He said he didn’t tell me before because he wanted to make me feel special. I’ve told him I’m not comfortable kissing on the lips, but later he said “our lips scream to be together,” even though he said that it’s fine with him about this boundary. I don’t know how to feel about it
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