Over the past few years, I (24M) have had dates with a couple of women, but they didn't grow into a deeper relationship. One potential contributing factor: I don't text, really.
I text to the extent where I respond to meet up and plan activities, and sometimes a few exchanges of conversation, but for the remainder of my time I like to spend time with people in real life. Texting gives me no pleasure, especially sitting hours on end having texting conversations. I'm not really much of a caller either. And sometimes I take longer to respond because I'm engaged in other stuff.
I have given a description of myself that makes it apparent I'm a bad person to date, if texting as a form of communication in a relationship is something you value.
The thing is, I'm not cut out for a world where texting seems such an ingrained part of the dating experience. Where the amount of constant attention you give each other is a sign of how much you're into each other. It seems that because it's so easy to be in contact, you have to be.
I know that a part of the advice would be about 'finding the right girl who shares a similar preference to communication'. I'm just curious about your take on this topic. What have been the effects of texting on dating? And to what degree do I have to change my texting behavior if I want a shot at growing close to someone I date?
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