I work on a college campus, originally I wasn’t really interested in this girl until coworkers/friends kept pointing me and her out as us crushing on each other. I seriously wasn’t interested until I kept hearing about us crushing on each other and noticed the signs. She always seem curious about my interests like asking me about a video game after I posted it on my story, saying I can lean on her emotionally after a presentation, shoulder touches, stares and smiles a lot, if shes taking the bus I have to go with her, her saying she wants to do a steak night and proceeded to add wine night and a movie night to that. There’s quite a few other things but overall she’s just clingy to me, I don’t really understand why.
Like to me I thought she was 80% interested since she’s shown textbook signs of being interested but then maybe 2-3 weeks ago she cried about her “first love” while drunk. She talked about how she doesn’t feel like anyone can love her or see her in that way. On top of that the topic of dating came up since I brought up one couple. She said she feels “ehh” about dating. Also she had a guy friend over at work and she was just as close, stared n all. Same day that friend was there a female friend of hers joined in and they were talking and all I heard was “you should stop going to his house”. Like everything I keep seeing just shows red flags and that she’s emotionally unavailable but just how clingy she is and everything just throws me off.
Like I said she’s just a lot I don‘t think she’s interested she’s just overly friendly and doesn’t understand boundaries. I thought about trying to ask her on a date and if she says no I can actually have a boundaries talk. I don’t mind being friends but I don’t want to feel like I’m a boyfriend either, I never really had a woman act like this to me especially if they’re just trying to be friends. The issue is after work is over I don’t really see her since we have to go different ways and she usually has to drive someone after too. So literally only thing I can do is text or call her but I would so much more prefer talking in person (granted texting might relief some of my anxiety though).
So my question is how do I go about this? Do I text Or call her and ask her on a date? Do I try and find a chance to talk to her after work (will be a pain)? If there are any other ideas please let me know. I kind of want clarity since it just helps me move on better but idk at this point.
tl;dr Shes really clingy to the point people think we’re crushing on each other But has shown red flags (first love drama and being overly friendly with men) How do I navigate a talk about a date and or boundaries?
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