He is constantly the one all the women go after, and I'm kind of just there. He genuinely believes that one day I'll be ready to date again, and we'll both be "living it up" together.
While he's right that I am not in a headspace to be dating right now, I'm not seeing what he is. Every time we go out, there are at least 2 women talking to him at every venue. I usually couldn't get a woman interested in talking to me if I paid her.
Now, it's not the end of times or anything. Like I said, I'm not "on the market" and I have a woman flirt with me about once a year these days. It just feels weird to hear him so confident that I have this overabundance of options as I look around, thinking, "I don't think the ladies agree with you, bud".
I have an overabundance of issues that I would be the first to call out when it comes to dating. Trust issues, self-image problems, general mania (though, I've found some women are into that for some reason), etc. But, he knows all of that. He has some of those worse than I do. And he is still confident I could chat up most women.
Those things also don't really present all that obviously when first talking and it seems like most women don't really want to talk to me, then those who end up talking to me really want to date when they learn more about me. So what is going on? Why is my friend, who constantly talks to women, so confident I'll be able to do the same? Why do women not want to talk to me like they do with him? Why do I have a higher chance of women wanting to date me after talking to me than him, despite all of my problems?
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