I'm a little confused by some posts I've been seeing here and I'd like to open this discussion up. I see a lot of people equating having relationships to being happy. Let me tell you -- as a perpetually single person-- relationships do not equal happiness. Happiness is a mindset and a personal endeavor regardless of relationship status. Same thing with feeling lonely. It's possible you'll feel lonely the more time you spend alone but you can get companionship from friends. Romantic relationships are not and should not be the only source of fulfillment or form of companionship you seek in life despite everything we're taught. Now, here's some things that you can't get from friendships and personal development:
- sex (with another person)
- security
- social status
I believe that a lot of the time when we say that our relationships make us happy what we are actually trying to say is one of the above things. These things can definitely add to your overall happiness but it is only because this is the way our society functions and has set up dating life to be (usually between two people for the purpose of maintaining social norms). People in relationships often have unhappy moments but choose to stay together often times to build upon a sense of established security which then leads to greater happiness in life. I think that should be a distinction that should be made. And if you aren't getting enough sex there's creative ways to go about that issue as well. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.
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