By writing here i just wanted to get it off my chest so here it goes .My ex-boyfriend[23] and I[21]were in a relationship for almost 8 months and we broke up just once for 2 days (but in that time he downloaded apps like tinder but nothing has happened I guess) but we got back together immediately due to one of his friends. (We had become friends with her at the time) In our final break-up I was expecting him to be understanding towards me while I was dealing with exams, stress and some health problems at the time and thought that he would be with me and support me. Instead, he asked to break-up and wanted to stay friends but I rejected the friends part (at least at that time it wouldn't be feasible but might be in the future because we were like best friends.) and he slept with another girl after just 2 days. Anyways, I was also chatting and maintaining the friendship with his friend, the girl from before. And she made me swear never to say a word about it to anyone cause he also made her swear over her relationship apparently. He didn't want me to know he even said to her 'Maybe I won't tell her when we talk'. It was very hard to keep my silence but I did. After he slept with that girl the next day he wrote to me to ask if we can speak just for five minutes to get the meaning of our break-up. We could've worked things out but it seemed like he was just looking for an excuse to jump ship. Meanwhile, she and I were talking shit behind him, she came across as if she was on my side and she was telling me all the conversations that transpired between them, even about the girl he slept with.. I know all the dirty details, that they used no protection and he came inside her.. and after that day they arranged two more nights.. Anyways, after a month, I broke my silence and called him while I was drunk. He asked me why I hated him that much while he still loves me and I said I didn't want to but what he did is disrespectful. I was still fuming so at the time I talked shit behind him. He said he will always love me and miss me in his life, we had a kind of emotional speech. But at that moment I realized she was relaying all the conversations we had to him and vice versa.. I even lied to my ex about this close friend's betrayal (let's call it that) cause I didn't want to jeopardize their friendship so to speak. If their friendship was ever to end, I didn't want to be the reason. She called me after I talked to him to learn all about it, I guess. I said 'What you did is playing both sides etc. and I can't trust you any longer so I don't want to see you any more' and recently he messaged me to ask if I'm ok or not after 3-4 months of our break up since I deactivated my Instagram, he said that I was still on his mind, whether I was ok or not and I said that I'm fine. We said our goodbyes and that was it.
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