I’ve been trying to make communication more prevalent when something is bothering us and I feel like it’s not helping.
We were supposed to get lunch the other day and she told me she doesn’t know when we can go because she has a sun allergy rash on her face. Couple minutes later I FaceTime her cause I wanna see what’s going on. I don’t even know that was a thing. She didn’t answer and I assumed she just ignored it so I responded “lol lemme see”. Anyways she says no and she’s texting me very slowly the whole day and to me it’s weird that she doesnt want to show me, like I feel like she should be able to come to me about something like this. She’s texting me that night and I push the envelope because I say It bothers me that she isn’t comfortable to show me and would just rather not see me the entire day.
Basically her rationale is that she was bothered by my response bc the first thing I said was “lol lemme see” as if it was some joke rather than ask her how she’s feeling. I try to explain to her that that’s why I called cause I wanted to see how she was doing and gauge the severity. She said that she went to shower so she missed my call.
First off, sometimes I just write lol. It’s not like I’m actually laughing at her idk why she would ever have reason to believe I’m being malicious. I even told her let me know if you want me to drop off food for her and stuff. I tried to plead my case and told her, if she was hurt by me saying “lol lemme see” then she should just say “hey! It’s not funny it really hurts” and then I could adjust. I don’t see there being anything wrong about communicating how she’s interpreting what I said and it could have prevented this entire thing. I’ve told her multiple times now that we have to communicate if somethings bothering us but she’s just reverting back to stonewalling which just infuriates me but I’m trying to be more calm. How do you think I could’ve handled this better? Am I in the wrong here?
TLDR; gf got a rash on her face, she missed my ft call so I said “LOL lemme see” and she feels hurt/I’m making a joke out of it.
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