Dating and relationships is hard. You get flakes. You get ghosts. People dont seem to put in the effort. Lack of interest. Lack of reciprocation. Emotional unavailablity. Lack of intimacy. Lack of emotional vulnerability. One day your Prince Charming, the next a stranger. Lack of fulfillment. Lack of compatibility. Wanting to build something so much more. Wanting to give it all but not knowing how much more you can take. Wanting genuine connection. Emotional trauma. Apathy and indifference. Sad lonely nights wishing it was spent with another. Wishing for dreams and hopes for a brighter future. Fear of rejection and abandonment. Fear of loneliness. Fear that through rejection, losing hope, that you may lose a part of yourself; your heart, your identity, your very soul. Fear of emptiness, that your heart may have already given all it had and wondering if it still has room to give any more. You want someone to if not share, then to support your dreams and aspirations. Someone who will love you for you. Someone who will take care of you without a second thought, and you would give back willingly, even gladly tenfold. Someone you can truly express yourself around without fear. Someone whom you trust deeply, whom youd give your heart on a platter only for them to take care of it as if was their own. Someone whom everything feels really easy, feels right, and everything just clicks. Your love, your best friend, your everything. You would give everything and he would give it right back. Could anybody like that be out there, anyone perfect... just for me? Is it too much to ask?
And I completely understand.
I want to tell you, YOU are enough. Your wants and concerns are valid. I want to love you for you and who you are, flaws and all. I wouldnt want to change who you are, not because I'm chasing perfection because in my eyes you are already perfect. You dont believe me when I say you are the most beautiful person in the world but they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and in my eyes, you ARE my world. I desperately want to wish upon you all the happiness in the world. I want spend more time to know you better in every shape, word or form because you are worth it. Every second of it. I want to get to know your hobbies, your passions your quirks, and your dreams. You know not how much you are worth because it cannot be defined. I couldn't spread my arms as wide as I want to when you ask how much I mean to you. I couldnt ever spend as much time with you, give you all the affection I could be it physical or verbal, buy you all the gifts, just to show you how much you are appreciated and show you how much you are LOVED.
So take a chance. Approach that cute guy always sitting in the same spot in the library. Talk to the guy checking you out in the gym but not having the courage to speak to you. Let your best friend know how you truly feel. Reaffirm your love to your partner and how much they mean to you. Have the conversation with that hot coworker that you've always wanted. Your high school crush. Your childhood friend. They ain't lying when they say confidence is hella attractive, even for women.
Be yourself. Dont be afraid of what you're saying, because if you have to put a filter on your words or actions it's already over. If he doesnt like something you said/did, then he's just the right person for you. It simply wasnt meant to be. Put yourself out there more! People from all walks of life will find you attractive. Your chocolate may be someone else's licorice. But that's okay! Just remember to keep your mind open and you may just find surprises from places you weren't expecting. You dont have to be everyone's cup of tea so dont conform to anyone else's expectations... Just. Be. Your. Self.
Also remember to take care of yourself. Read some books, go to the gym, appreciate the happiness you have because more will come. Nurture your inner strength through hardships. Compare yourself not to the others of today, but the yourself of yesterday. Achieve your own desiderata. Find your inner peace. Guys also notice these kinds of things in your demeanor, the way you carry yourself, the way you talk and act. But dont forget that a true master is an eternal student.
And if even through all that it doesnt work out it's okay! Not everything can work out and not everything is meant to be. Move on with dignity and grace, and look forward to the next great adventure life has set in store for you. Your strength can conquer anything, you just have to believe and you're already halfway there. Everything you want to be you already are, you are simply on the path to discovering it.
So dont lose hope. Dont settle for anything less. Make him a part of your world and dont be afraid to tell him how you truly feel. Care for him and love him with all your heart, if he's right for you he will give you as much as you give him. Love is a two way street so make sure you're walking down that street holding hands with the guy you REALLY want. And if you dont know if it is him yet, go with how you feel. Follow your heart, it's hardly ever wrong; put trust in yourself to make your own decisions and everything will be okay.
Oh and by the way, dont worry, guys like that exist so dont worry too much.Your worlds have simply yet to converge. I'd know because I'm also in the same boat. :)
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