We met on a Discord server. She flirts with me nonstop in public chat. I decide to flirt back and DM her to make sure that it's okay that I do this because I'm paranoid. Find out she's perfectly okay with it.
We've been talking for about 2 months now. She always makes 100% effort to initiate conversations with me in DM. Never leaves me hanging. Never lets the conversation go dry. Always asks me things about myself.
She opens up about her past, traumas and even goes in-depth about all her sexual kinks/fetishes and the like. Even tells me she needed to tell me these things or she said she was going to go crazy. She is completely open with me.
I think she's a great person. She's fun to talk to. I'm attracted to her. Decide to ask her out, she says that even though that she feels something for me and that she's attached to me, it's too early to be sure. Okay, that was a rejection, right? Cool.
She continues the flirting, sexual and romantic talk.
??????
I try to establish boundaries. No more flirting or sex talk. She gets notably sad and annoyed about it. Hmm, eventually, I confront her again and ask her what's up. Because friends don't do this sort of thing. Explains it in depth that she does still feel something for me.
Sometimes, I won't respond for a while, maybe for a few days as I need to take care of things. My DM is blown up with messages from her. It is insane. And I enjoy her company, but I really want to know if this is the behavior of someone who doesn't actually like me romantically.
I guess the question is if she actually does this with other people as well? Or if I'm the only one? I did ask her similar questions and she says that I'm pretty much the only one she's opened up to about this sort of stuff. It just surprised me that she was so open with me. But then again, many people have been very open with me... So I don't know.
I took her at face value but I don't know. There's no way I'm that good of a friend that a person just can't help but want to talk to me about everything all the damn time. Just trying to figure things out and see if any of you have experienced something similar so I can get some advice or insight.
Thank you.
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