I'm currently mourning a breakup that I did not see coming at all, and someone sent this to me. I didn't write it, but I wanted to share it with you Reddit, and hope someone can benefit from it too.
When an almost relationship comes to an end, there's usually not a definitive breaking point. There's just drifting, fading. You wonder what happened, what went wrong. It's usually at that point you might start to think you're crazy for getting so attached.
But, you know what's "crazy"? Thinking that it's normal to connect with someone so deeply and then just not care about it. You're not "crazy" for getting attached. It's crazy that we treat dating so casually now. You're not "crazy" for caring. It's crazy that someone could put so much time and effort into your relationship and then just disappear. You're not "crazy" for reading into it. It's crazy that someone could think they could lead you on only when it's convenient for them.
Don't let anyone call you crazy for developing a real human connection. That doesn't make you "crazy", it makes you a healthy and strong and open-hearted and ultimately someone who will receive real love one day.
The truth is - modern dating is disheartening. We act like ordering a date is the same as ordering dinner from off of DoorDash. Everyone's a profile, a picture, and we forget that there are real, true feelings behind that. Modern dating is a game of who is more cool, who is more casual, who cares less. But to hell with that.
It's not "crazy" to feel love for the people we've shared love with. It's crazy that someone could do that and then walk away like it meant nothing at all.
Those people aren't walking away from you because you're not enough. They're walking away from you because they need to walk toward someone who will tolerate their half-loves. They're walking away from you because they need to walk away from vulnerability. They're walking away from you because they need to walk toward their own demons, and resolve them first. Don't let other people make you feel bad because they showed up and made you care about them and then walked away.
It's not crazy to feel love for the people we've shared love with. It's crazy that someone could do that and walk away like it meant nothing at all.
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