I’ve (F30) been living in an unhealthy environment with 2 narcissist, one being my ex and the other my mother. My mental health has been really bad over the last year and things like my confidence and even social skills have gone out the window.
I’ve recently made a friend (M32), who has been my first one in awhile. We’ve briefly talked on and off the last few months because I couldn’t commit to any level of socializing with how controlling and abusive my environment is. I’ve pretty much been cut off from the world.
Over the past week we reconnected and have kinda hit it off, or at least the chemistry has its moments. He’s very busy with work, gym and just his life altogether and I’m still new to, so it’s hard to judge his interest in me as actually interested vs excitement
I know he’s in the mindset of being interested in dating, sex, etc. But I’m concerned it’s out of the fact he hasn’t been involved in any of those things for sometime vs actually having interest in me.
He invited me over for the weekend to stay a night because I’m SH a lot and really need to escape my home life. He went out of his way to also make it so I could stay an extra day or 2 if I wanted. I’m supposed to also meet his kids (9/10) as well, which again is a big step for me, even just being his friend.
I’m not quite sure how to approach this, I haven’t had a friend in awhile, haven’t considered myself worth dating to go for anything, and haven’t had a sex life in a couple of years.
I don’t know how to approach this because I can’t figure out my feelings, emotions, moods between my past trauma and self doubt. I like him but I know I fall easily and both of us would rush this. But same time I’m thinking that if nothing did happen then there might be something wrong with me.
I’d like to see how this goes but I’ve never dated someone. It’s usually either a sex thing or right into relationship. Which is my next point, should I be sleeping with him out of gratitude for helping me leave?
I apologize for my rant. I don’t get to a voice a lot, even with my own life so I’m just lost on how to handle this.
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