Can I just write shout out a HUGE REMINDER to anyone who's struggling with a broken heart?
You are worth it.
You deserve BETTER.
You WILL get through this and you will be a better version of yourself.
Also, Redditors. YOU ARE AMAZING.
A little over a year ago I started my Reddit account on a really difficult issue I was going through. I was sad, confused, anxious and lonely. I’d moved across the world to be with someone who was not upfront with me about his wishes, desires and plans, and who simply dumped me (without any fights or conflicts) in the middle of a holiday (at his parents place) after talking to HIS friends we WERE STAYING WITH I wasn't the one and he didn't see himself walking down the aisle. In a foreign country where I had no support system. In a FUCKING HOLIDAY. Shortly before a pandemic. After THREE YEARS LIVING TOGETHER, with me having moved across the world. After me taking an unpaid month off work to travel with him. Yup.
"You're too extroverted. I love you, but not enough. I can't see myself walking down the aisle. It's my gut feeling. You don't like my family's staffed yacht, and that's a big family thing for us."
"I've never forced you to be outgoing. YOU were the one who told me our relationship was solid enough for me to move permanently. I've never prevented you from going on the boat. I respect our differences and would have liked some planning space and some respect because MY TIME, MY FEELINGS AND MY DIGNITY MATTER. And I need to afford my new life, but I have just taken a FUKING MONTH OFF to go on holiday with your soggy-toast ass of a man."
Fast-forward to a year of his millionaire mother, who claimed she "loved me so much" when we were together, had nothing but small talk to spare.
I came to London. cried a lot and drank far too much. lived in a flat without a living room. Sent cvs and got work as an English teacher and interpreter within a week. Thank you London. Lost most of my work to the pandemic. got help from the government. Thank you London. funded my education. upskilled myself. had a panic attack looking at studio flats in bethnal green. lived with strangers, one of which was a racist Danish girl who resented me for being a person of colour. She refused to share the dining room table with me, I told her to sit on the floor. worked for abusive bosses. quit. got a better job. might quit because now business is picking up. got my full legal interpreting qualification. sat my certified translator tests. might not pass, but will try again. I made friends. I got robbed of my iPhone 11 and worked my ass off to get an identical one. Veni. Vidi. Vinci.
For some reason, it all fell into place. The people I thought loved and cared about me in 2019 actually show none of that in 2020. But you know what?
My biggest revenge is thriving.
Making ends meet.
Turning the fall into a dance step.
Never forget your worth. And your anger. But above all, your kindness.
Be kind to yourself and be someone you will admire.
You are worth it.
You deserve BETTER.
You WILL get through this and you will be a better version of yourself.
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