24/M here. The last girlfriend I had was senior year of college, and we broke up right before graduating. The past two years since then has been spent focusing solely on me. I didn't focus a single bit on dating, just working on myself, progressing in the job I got right after graduating, and trying to put myself on the right track right out of the gate.
Now, I've worked myself into a comfortable position. I've gotten raises/a promotion, I got myself a nice car and paid it off extremely fast, I've improved my health (both physical and mental), and overall things are just going really well for me right now. The big change that recently took place was that I moved out of my family's home, and took off to live in the city I went to school in (roughly 2k miles away from home). I love my apartment and I love having this freedom to finally do as I please.
The last couple days, the idea of trying to date again has been popping up. Everything I wrote above makes me feel like I'm in a place where I can genuinely put myself out there. But, there is this one big hiccup that I can't decide if it's a big deal or not, and that is how alone I am.
Moving 2k miles away from home means I am out by myself. I do have a couple friends who live out here still, and I could probably hang out with them if I reached out. But, for all intents and purposes, I am by myself and I want to know if that would be a potential red flag for anyone. Like, the thing I keep telling myself is if I am by myself, girls who are potentially looking to date me are going to think I am a loner, I am boring, and everything else you could come up with about someone who is by themselves.
Am I completely overthinking this? I was planning on using excuses like work and such to meet new people in general, but my job is 100% work from home and I really don't have a reason to go out other than some of my hobbies (which are easily done solo as well).
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