I met this gentleman in the gym 4 weeks ago, he approached me and asked to take me on a date. Our first date was amazing and he asked to see me again. I saw him again 3 days ago for a second date and he extended the date and took me to a pretty terrace where he kissed me multiple times. After our kiss I asked him what his intentions were and what he was looking for, and he said he's 'open to anything', which really threw me off because I very much look for a serious partner who is intentional in dating. He is an extremely driven and ambitious person who works very hard and has many friends and full life. By the way that he describes his life it doesn't even sound like he has time to date, which made me interpret him saying he's 'open to anything' as he only wants me for sex. He said he tends to take things really really slow (I like slow but I'm starting to think there's no progress because the gap between each date is too long like 2 weeks long). I made my intentions very clear to him and he still asked me when I was free to see him next time. I also asked him how old did he think I was before he approached me and he said he thought I was 22, and that he wanted to settle down when he's in his early or mid 30s. Idk, I somehow feel like maybe he approached me because he thought I was young and would be more up for a casual sex situationship? I'm going sightly crazy thinking about this because he does seem very respectful in person and has good relationships with women in his life, but I can't help but feel like he's not intentionally pursuing me and that I deserve someone who is at the very least knows what they want. I really want this to work out because I NEVER find someone that I like, it seems like our values align but I am so afraid of getting hurt. I don't want to go on more dates with him and develop feelings for him only for him to waste my energy and time.
I'm planning to tell him next time that I don't have sex with someone until I feel like things are right, and see if he still wants to see me so that I can get more clarity on what exactly it is that he wants.What do you guys think? Am i being overly guarded?
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